A Definition of Feminism

Feminism is believing that everyone should be treated equally, regardless of their gender..png

HERE’s a shocker: I am a feminist but I won’t ever label myself as one. Why? The reason is quite simple in fact. There is no antonym for racist (tolerance is not only based on race), besides the antonym for homophobic, that is homophilia, remains quite unknown. On the other hand, I believe that the antonym for racist is humane, the antonym for homophobic is humane, the antonym for sexist is humane too. Thus, I will keep on fighting for gender equality, for feminism, although I will never call myself a feminist. And I believe that each and every decent human being should be a feminist. It is a shame that in 2016, people still claim that they are not concerned by feminism; as humans, they shall be.

Once gender equality is fully acquired, we will still need feminism. Listing the reasons « why we still need feminism in 2016 » is understandable, yet the phrasing may be incorrect. Indeed, when all inequalities between genders are neutralized, we will still need people to believe that there should be no gaps between the sexes and who will act accordingly to this belief without ever questioning themselves.

Whether it be at a small scale or at a wider scale, we all need feminism. We all have witnessed once in our lifetime a sexist act, from part of a man or woman alike. Being catcalled on the streets for showing off too much skin, being slut-shamed, being told how to act accordingly to a man’s behavioral patterns are only a few examples. Feminism is not a curse word. Feminism is believing that everyone should be treated equally, regardless of their gender. So why do some people refrain themselves from this basic principle by introducing their statements by saying:

« I am no feminist but… »?

Why would do some be more entitled to relate to such concerns than others? My question to these people ever voicing these words is the following: why don’t you believe that men and women should be treated as equals? Indeed, you may think that feminism is a dirty word that entails going to war against masculinity but you’re wrong. By saying these words, you are explicitly characterizing yourself as someone who doesn’t believe in gender equality. It is that simple.

At a global scale, the most severe issues that women face are trafficking, violence, repression and enforced ignorance. In the western world, progress has been significant, nonetheless, despite that, complete equality between the sexes has not yet been reached today. Far-right parties still stand in 2016 for hundred-year-old views. For instance, in France, the National Front keeps holding demonstrations against abortion , which was yet authorized in the country since the Veil Law in 1975. Besides, the pay gap remains at a high rate. Furthermore, the rate of men charged with rape that are convicted is lower than the cases which actually go to court. These issues are to be thoroughly discussed (You can read the World Economic Forum’s (WEF) Global Gender Gap Report 2015 here.)




At a smaller scale, feminism is as needed. Let’s take one uncomplicated example: Steve Harvey’s talk-show which airs on NBC in which he helps people deal with their problems by giving them his seemingly insightful opinion, among which are dating. In a segment entitled ‘Women Understanding Men’, the host dwells on men’s reaction in accordance with women’s actions so that the latter ones have a better understanding of a man’s expectations. Although Harvey seems to be deeply encouraging of female empowerment, his reasoning does not seem to go fully in that direction. Let’s analyze one specific sequence of his show. The video down below entitled What Men Really Think of Sexy Pics left me in awe.


What Steve Harvey basically says is that women should not act this particular way, as they want if they are willing to get in a relationship. What this respectable man is emphasizing is that women that take « sexy pictures » are unrespectable, discreditable to the title of ‘good wife’ and indecent. Of course, we all have our own perception of good morals but the line between being principled and being openly judgmental is markedly thin.

This point does not only regard feminist issues, it is a much deeper problem that may lie in the fact that our society is very quick to judge and put labels on people. Whether women wear skirts or pose in bikinis, the fact that they decide to expose themselves is considered unladylike and scandalous, making them somewhat less worthy than others. Yet, behind Harvey’s apparent friendly attitude lies a profoundly retrograde way of thinking that women should be sensitive to men’s behavioral patterns and attitude before moving any step further.

No more selfies, they make you narcissistic! No more makeup, it makes you a fake person! No more anything, just live according to everyone else’s perception of good morals and stop being you! This may sound amplified, but in fact, it is where such behavior leads.

Women should not act according to what men think of them, as men should not act according to what women think of them.

Nowadays, the prejudices concerning appearance are higher towards women than men. Those clichés are fortunately less damaging than other forms of sexism, but the point of that case study was to prove that we all witness sexism in our everyday life which shows that gender inequality remains high but fortunately we all have the ability change it.

Feminism is not a way of taking action, it’s a way of thinking. Feminism isn’t holding demonstrations and blaming men or being part of a specific movement. Feminism is merely believing that all men and women were created equal and that any negligent treatment based on gender, as much as based on race or sexual orientation, is discriminatory and invalid.

How would you define feminism yourself? Let me know your thoughts! 

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  1. This was such an amazing, well written post. I agree with you 100% and I think it sad that we even need the label ‘feminist’, because everyone should be one. I do label myself a feminist though because as you said we still need feminism. I think when you label yourself a feminist you say “I have had enough, and I want gender inequality to end.” Great post! – Sarah

  2. Not everyone views feminism as a dirty word for the same reasons. One problem is that many times, feminists don’t work towards true equality but towards the benefit of privileged white women, usually at the expense of women who face a very different sort of oppression due to the intersections of race, sexuality, ability, etc. That’s why Alice Walker founded womanism for Black women, which some Black women use instead of the word feminism. Others may have a harder time calling themselves feminists because even if they believe in gender equality, they find it difficult to make the other ideas of feminism agree with the ideas of their religion/culture. For me, true feminism acknowledges nuance and actively works to eradicate other forms of oppression, and also welcomes the struggles of people like intersex and nonbinary folks. 🙂

  3. I agree with you on the definition of what feminism is. And we shouldn’t have to label ourselves as feminists.

    I do admit hearing and seeing “feminists” being hateful towards men even though the goal is equality. Just because men have prior a very long time, doesn’t it mean it’s time for us to fully take over and treat men like we have been treated for thousands of years. That would be the same as saying the white western people treated other races like sh*t so now it’s ok for other races to treat white people badly. It will just be a vicious circle. It shouldn’t be about revenge. It should be about peace. Between genders, religions, races etc. I think that’s why a lot of people see feminism as a bad thing.

    Great post!

  4. I’m not gonna reassess my use of the the feminist but this post was truly brilliant! I honestly WISH there were words similar describing equality for all those other things.

    I guess for people like us the word is ‘normal’ because we approach people as individuals not as a categorised thing. Sadly, not everybody has the same mentality. I think it’s nice to be able to verbalise your causes instead of using negative terminology towards the opposite side (ie. Anti-fascist, Anti-fascist, anti-homophobia)

    The term feminist shows an active and strong belief in gender equality and I’d love to be able to make myself known as pro-cultural, pro-LGBT-equality etc. So its something I feel proud to use.

    Once again, great post!!

    Rebecca Claire, libfemblog.com xx

  5. Hey, this is a great post! I did a lot of feminism research at university and have carried on my interest since. It’s always the label that has fascinated me in the same way you mention, although I do sometimes find the concept of feminism confused. As a man, some people who call themselves feminists say I can’t be one because I’m the problem because I was born male, while others say that if I don’t call myself a feminist then I’m misogynist.

    I’m with you. I’d rather be a decent human being who believes in equality whatever title it’s given. It once took me nearly 4000 words to get there though! http://wp.me/p4jLZ5-qd

  6. You’ve written a very well-informed post here. I don’t clearly understand why exactly you wouldn’t call yourself a feminist though? For me, I happily call myself a feminist because I realise there is a stigma around the word that makes me feel guilty for using it – one which is stemmed by men who feel like they’re losing power and control by seeing women rise up. And therefore I see the need to change that by embracing it. After all, there is a history behind feminism that needs to be acknowledged (just like slavery needs to be acknowledged in the civil rights movement, just like the Holocaust needs to be acknowledged in the case of anti-semitism).

    We can all agree that equality is necessary, but we need to understand and acknowledge the past in order to move forward. Not by making men feel guilty, but rather by helping them understand why women are so angry/upset. Does that make sense???

    1. I absolutely share your point of view. To me, feminism is inherent to being human. When I get to discuss issues that revolve around sexism, I tend NOT to use the word “feminism”, not because I’m afraid to be discredited by the F word but it appeals to me that in 2016 we should not discuss whether we “are” feminists or not, we all should – otherwise that’s mysoginy. Just as we don’t we don’t label ourselves as “anti-racist”, we all should be against racism. I hope I made it clearer.

      1. Yep! Made total sense. I actually think I like your approach to it. It moves the issue away from the word, and instead focusses on the issues at hand. More things get done that way!

        I suppose if someone came up to you and said ‘are you a feminist’, you could then approach it that way by saying that the content of my actions are more important than the label I use for myself (whether you embrace it or not).

  7. I love a strong, powerful & intelligent mind. The first paragraph of this post….sooooo powerful. wow! I love it. I might have to quote you later, if I may! I would love your feedback on my blog LADYHOOD https://aladyhoodjourney.wordpress.com/ I have multiple posts, most recent, “Beauty Is…” I aim to challenge women to become the best versions of themselves and push back against the pop culture standards of what a woman is. I would love some constructive criticism.
    Great post!

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